Dear Daughter Pt.6

Dear Daughter,

Earlier this morning, you woke up without the usual smile on your face. This just means that you will be a bit cranky versus your usual self. Even if that is the case, mommy still loves you. It is normal to have an off day. It is normal to sometimes feel sad or frustrated even if nothing has happened yet. This is what being a human being entails, a splash of happiness with a dash of sadness to produce a colorful rainbow that is called life.

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I don’t want to lie to you and let you believe that everything will always have a happily ever after ending. Yes my love it is possible but with hard work and determination. Partly I think that is the reason why I allowed you to cry it out when you got cranky because mommy didn’t allow you to take a stroll outside (baby it was too early). Your dad and your lolo, of course, came to your rescue trying to pacify you. I stopped them and told them to allow you to cry it out. I told your dada that I want you to finish crying so I can explain to you why you got frustrated. See, I wanted you to discover and understand your emotions. It won’t always be the same happy sunny side you will have your moments.

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Your dada listened to me and gave you space. I was sitting on the floor with you. You with your face buried between my legs. I patted your back slowly and ever so gently telling you that it is okay. I continued whispering to your ear that it is okay to cry and feel sad because you didn’t get what you want. You have to learn that not everything will be handed to you on a silver platter.

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After a few minutes your tears stopped falling, and I wiped each tear on your face to reveal your beautiful face. I smiled and told you again that it is okay. I picked you up and hugged you ever so tightly. At this time you settled down but hugged me so closely and rested your face on my chest.

Oh my love how I wish you knew how hard it is for me to resist your requests but I can’t give you everything that you ask for. You are now at the age when you start learning what is right from wrong. The power of your tears and the power that mommy has to say yes and no. It is hard to resist you especially because I am out for 11 hours every weekday, but I know that giving in is bad as well. Please understand mommy that I am doing this just for you as well. I love you forever, forever you will be my love.

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I will see you soon, and I hope that you welcome me with a big hug and a huge smile on your face.

28 comments

  1. Neri Ann says:

    I can relate! Pareho din tayo, minsan kapag wala namang masyadong reasons talaga ang pag iyak, I will let them be. Napapagod naman sila and I’ll make sure na pupunasan ko ang luha nila and reassures them na everything is ok kasi kasama nila si Mama.

  2. Berlin says:

    The same way how I tell my grown up boys to face their sadness and frustration. But that I cannot do to my youngest. Perhaps, Bunso kasi. Now, he wants the attention and would easily cry if left unattended. Not too late though to give some lessons. Thanks for reminding me. 🙂

  3. Elizabeth O. says:

    That’s so beautiful, thank you for letting us read your sweet message for her. She doesn’t know how lucky she is to have you as a mom!

  4. Jhanis says:

    So sweet! I love writing letters to my kids! I hope to be able to have them printed one day and give it to them when they are older. 🙂

  5. MomsterTeacher says:

    Tough love is toughest on moms. But always think of the bigger picture and not just instant gratification. Your daughter will thank you when she grows up to be an awesome lady. 🙂

  6. Nina Sogue says:

    This is so heartfelt 🙁 My son is currently 1 year and 6 months, yet when we cries I feel like crying too. But, we really have to resists as parents sometimes. Kahit mahirap, kailangan para mapalaki sila ng mabuti.

    • denice.diaz says:

      Just let him cry it out sometimes, I know that as a mom you would know the difference between a tantrum cry and a hunger or pain cry. 🙂

    • denice.diaz says:

      I just explain to her why she cry. I read that it is a great way of helping them understand what is happening. 🙂

  7. Ma.Me.Mi.Mommy says:

    Great letter! I feel you when other members of the family come to the child’s rescue. That always happens here too but the kids have to learn their lessons even if it awakens the entire house with their sobs and cries.

    • denice.diaz says:

      Agree with you Mommy! I always tell them to let her be sometimes, she needs to learn and bruises will help her become a stronger girl

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